Learning To Love Yourself:

Why Self-Love Isn’t Selfish:

Self-Love is often misunderstood as being self-centered or putting yourself above others. The reality is, it’s learning to treat yourself the way that you do to others. When you learn to treat yourself with kindness, respect, compassion that you would offer to a loved one, your self-esteem will start to increase.

I want to love myself, but its just so hard:

You aren’t alone. Many people find it easier to treat other people well but then continue to treat themselves poorly. This can be from past experiences like criticism, unrealistic expectations of yourself, social comparisons, a traumatic or not supportive home environment growing up. Over time the negative voice you hear inside (the inner critic) starts to focus on flaws, mistakes, or perceived shortcomings.

Sometimes, you might say to yourself I will love myself when I achieve X, but self-kindness does not need to be earned. In fact, it will help you achieve more in life when you have a better relationship with yourself.

Tips & Tricks: Challenge negative self-talk

Celebrate small victories

Set healthy boundaries

Practice Self-Care

Accept that Growth takes time

If self-love feels difficult right now, that doesn’t mean that it’s impossible. Like any relationship, the relationship you have with yourself can grow stronger with patience, understanding, and practice.

This week, try asking yourself one simple question “Would I say this to someone I care about?” If the answer is no, then consider offering yourself the same kindness you offer to your friends.

Self-Compassion Is Key To a Happy Life